Just like me

It’s Easter week and that means schools are out, routine is about to go to pot, sugar levels are high and rising; and you might have travel arrangements made to spend the break with family or to make use of the school holidays. Times like this tend to require more of us in terms of empathy, judgement …

What stops you from speaking your truth

How often have not articulated what you really thought in a situation because of some flavour of fear of being misunderstood. It sounded like this in your head: ‘I didn’t want them to think…’ ‘I didn’t want anyone to feel…’ ‘I didn’t want to seem…’ You had something to say but your concern for how …

People pleaser or manipulator?

For most of my life, I thought of myself as a people pleaser. I spent many years perfecting my people pleasing skills – saying yes at work because I thought I should, accepting and extending social invitations that my heart wasn’t really in and holding back from speaking my truth in many situations where I thought …

Do this and rip up your to-do list

Have you planned out your day? A client asked me this week if by ‘daily planning’, I meant having a to-do list. I don’t. I never ever have a to-do list and I’m going to tell you why. The following is what I do in my daily planning. I plan out this way for a …

When 70% is good enough

I once got 103% in a test. It was in third form Latin. A project assigned over the Easter Holidays on Roman Gods made up 15% of the total mark and I got 18/15 for that because – remembering it now – the Latin teacher himself may not even heard of the Greek Gods that …

Are you walking your talk?

Last week, a client of mine corrected her (male) Partner in a meeting. He didn’t like it, she said, and made it clear that he didn’t like what she had done. When I asked her how she knew he didn’t like it, she said ‘she could tell’. She told me that when the meeting was …

Be a learner

This is what my 5 year old said to me on the way to ski school this morning: ‘Mama, I do want to be a great skier, but I don’t want to be a learner.’ ‘I know exactly what you mean, wee man’, is what I said. Wouldn’t it be so fun to click into …